How to Find True Love

Finding true love is one of the most significant decisions you’ll make. The Bible offers timeless principles to guide you in making wise choices regarding relationships and marriage.

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1. They have to be of the opposite gender.

The Bible is explicit about the boundaries for a loving relationship that is intended for marriage. In Mark 10:7, Jesus states, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife.” This emphasizes that the union between a man and a woman should be of opposite genders.

For example, imagine a pair of shoes. There needs to be a right shoe and a left shoe for them to fit comfortably. Similarly, God designed the male and female bodies to fit together, not just physically but emotionally and spiritually as well.

2. They have to match your faith.

Also, your beliefs must align. The Bible warns us against being unequally yoked in 2 Corinthians 6:14.

Being “yoked” refers to being in a covenant—like a marriage—with someone else. Imagine two oxen yoked together; they need to move in the same direction. Similarly, if you’re pulling toward Christ but your partner is pulling in another direction, there will be strain and conflict.

For example, if you take a high heel and you take a normal guy’s sneaker, even though they could each fit the correct foot, they’re not matching shoe styles. The same thing happens with our faith. Many people ignore this. Your faith has to match with the person you’re dating for marriage.

3. They must fit well.

In addition, we see that the Bible provides guidance on compatibility in 1 Corinthians 7:39, stating, “A wife is bound by law as long as her husband lives; but if her husband dies, she is at liberty to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.”

For instance, a few good questions to ask is do you have a peace about this person? Trust your intuition; if something feels off, perhaps you should reconsider. Take into account the opinions of your family and mentors—people who know you well and have your best interests at heart.

Here are some questions to ask yourself:

• Do I like this person?
• Do they share my core beliefs?
• What do their friendships reveal about them?
• Do my family and mentors approve?

4. You have to be willing to pay the price.

Lastly, true love comes with a cost. The Bible says in Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.”

In addition, just like you have to pay for the pair of shoes you like, you need to “pay the price” for the relationship by maintaining purity before marriage. Intimacy is for marriage. I know culture says the opposite about this nowadays, and if you want to end up like the culture, then follow it but if you want to follow Jesus then you’re going to have to obey His principles.

Final Thoughts

God is not just concerned with setting boundaries; He wants you to experience true love, the kind that comes from Him and reflects His own love for us. As you navigate certain relationships, keep these principles in mind, and allow the Word of God to be the standard by which you live.

Read: Before God Brings You Someone