7 Signs They’re The One God Sent

Singleness is not a curse, sickness, or punishment. Rather, it’s a season to be holy, working on growing yourself and preparing for yourself for marriage. I always remind single people that being single will not kill you and being married will not heal you. In fact, marriage will magnify what you have, it will not satisfy what you don’t have. Therefore, the time to get healed and whole is during your single season. Remember that a Christian marriage is a commitment to God first, then to your spouse—not merely a contract, but a covenant built on sacrifice and service.

Here are a few signs that can help you discern that the person you are dating is the person God has sent your way based on the story of how Abraham’s servant found a wife for Isaac.

7 Signs to Look For

1. They are someone who lies in the spiritual family.

First off, we see in Genesis 24:3-4 that Abraham sends his servant to find a wife from his family, not from the Canaanites. Now, this is important because we see that Paul states something very similar by saying that as Christians, we can marry whom we like, but as long as they are in the Lord, meaning in the spiritual family of God (1 Corinthians 7:39). This should be the first and most important key when deciding who to marry.

2. While waiting, seek the well, not the spiritual wilderness.

As we continue on in the story, we see that Rebecca was found by the well. In other words, be around God’s presence, Scripture, and church. I would encourage ladies to be in the right environment, and men to prepare their “camels.”

Serve in the kingdom—your spouse will be found while you’re serving.

3. Pray about your prospects while you’re in the process of waiting.

Next, we see that the servant prayed for success (Genesis 24:12). Prayer brings clarity, prevents desperation and poor decisions, and helps us to discern God’s will. If you are at this stage, I would encourage you to continuously bring it before the Lord in prayer.

4. Pay attention to the signs.

In the same passage, we see that the servant not only prayed for success but also prayed for a sign to confirm the right person (Genesis 24:14).

In the same way, I would encourage you to look at how they the person you are interested in or dating treat others, who they follow, what they consume, and how they behave in different settings. Notice if your friends and family approve and whether you trust them. This is a very important step as “love” can often be blinding and make us not see things that are very obvious to others around us.

5. Stay pure in the dating process.

Now, another important key in the story is how the servant stayed silent, observing. While dating, it is important to stay pure, ensuring you’re not having before marriage and not falling for cohabitation. I would also encourage those who who desire to walk pure before the Lord but are already living together already without being married, to get married or move out.

6. Meet the family before making a decision.

Further along the story in Genesis 24:23, we see that the servant asks about Rebecca’s family. This is an important step and it resembles how marriage joins two different families. This is a highly important step when considering who you will marry because negative traits that run in the family may appear later in your partner. I would encourage you to bring your family into the conversation. Get their input and observe what habits, manner of living, and traits run in the family of the person you are interested in.

7. Don’t drag your feet.

Lastly, I would encourage you to not date for years without ever moving forward. In Genesis 24:56 we see that the servant says, “Do not hinder me.” In other words ,if it feels right, don’t delay. Remember that the Bible we are free to marry whom we like as long as they’re in the Lord. The instructions are clear, the light is green—go!

If you’re dating for years, this is your sign: get married! No one is ever fully ready, but maturity comes through the journey. God will grow you as you walk in obedience. I pray for grace as you walk on the journey of discernment.

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