The 5 Roles of a Biblical Husband

The Bible talks about certain traits that a man should have when desiring to be godly husband. If you are dating a guy, this is a good list of attributes to look for in a potential husband. If you are a husband, I want to challenge you to see what areas you may be falling short in, and make a choice to strengthen your marriage and your family today.

1. Called to be a Leader

According to 1 Corinthians 11:4, a husband is called to be the leader in the household. However, leadership, as Jesus showed us, is not about being abusive or dominating, it is about being a servant. A biblical man carries these four roles in his leadership:

• Proactive – He initiates spiritual and practical decisions.
• Pursues God – He demonstrates a Christ-like leadership.
• Pastors his home – He leads his family to serve God and worship.
• Protector – He provides and protects the home and family.

2. Called to be a Laborer

In Genesis 2:15 we see that God assigned Adam to tend and keep the garden in which he lived. God created men to work. In 1 Timothy 5:8, the Bible tells us that those who don’t provide for their homes are worse than unbelievers. According to some studies, in the 1950’s 1 in 50 men who were able to work, didn’t want to work, but today that number has increased to 1 in 9.

In Jesus’s example we see that although He had a world to save, He spent most of His time working. “Being called to ministry” should never be used as an excuse to not provide for your family.

3. Called to be Loyal

In our culture, is has become normal to view men as cheaters. Now, I wish this were true only of unbelievers, but there are many who still need to break a generation curse of infidelity as believers.

Matthew 5:28 talks about how serious the Lord views this topic.

If you want to strengthen yourself in this area, here are a few things you must do:

1. Stop tolerating women to flirt with you.
2. Realize that the grass is greener wherever you water it.
3. Don’t hang out with the opposite sex alone.
4. Don’t open up about personal issues with the opposite sex.
5. Keep a fire burning in your fireplace (marriage).

4. Called to be a Learner

1 Peter 3:7 tells husbands to dwell with their wives with understanding. If you are always ignoring your wife and not tending to her needs, the Bible says that it could also hinder your prayers to God.

Becoming a learner is about figuring your wife out, valuing her opinions, understanding her struggles, and continuously seeking ways to deepen your marriage.

It’s interesting that the Bible doesn’t command wives to try to understand their husbands, but it does instruct men to strive to live with their wives in an understanding way.

5. Called to be a Lover

Colossians 3:19 encourages husbands to love their wives and not be harsh with them.

If you find that struggle in this area, here are 5 ways you can grow in this today:

1. Buy her flowers
2. Spend time with her.
3. Do house chores. 
4. Physically touch her without initiating sex. 
5. Compliment her. 

When you begin to be intentional as a man in this area, you will see that your marriage will flourish and be strengthened.

Conclusion

You can cultivate a marriage that not only thrives on earth but also reflects the heavenly relationship between Christ and the Church.

I encourage husbands not to treat their wives based on how their wives treat them, but to love them as Jesus loved you. Her reaction will change towards you when you take the initiative.

Read: The Role of a Biblical Wife